In any incomprehensible situation, now we sing a song by Alla Kirillovna: "we are a lady, we are a lady, we are a lady.We go to the exit and everything is fine. 😅
IT WAS POSSIBLE TO TURN IT ON WITHOUT STUTTERING???!?!?!?!?! And I watched the whole series and I'm indignant why everything is stuttered on the Kinopoisk... I'm stupid.... 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲
Vicky's position is a little unclear, I will be friends with both, well, at least I would be afraid to be friends with a man who put a knife in his close friend's back, where is the guarantee that the person understood everything and coped?!
@id470348331: I also put this moment into a stupor. As she told Nastya: well, you stopped communicating with her. It was as if Inga had stepped on her foot or smashed her favorite mug. Hello, she slept with her husband, where is there any solidarity at all?!
@id470348331: So the series is just about that, that's the whole idea. Inga did nothing to Vika, and although she understands Nastya's pain, she also understands Inga's feelings and tries to be her friend. Adequate people should not stop communicating with someone just because that person hurt someone else (if we are talking about friendship). In any relationship, when a friend or partner asks /demands /sets conditions for the termination of communication with a third person, this is simply suppression and psychological abuse. Vika is an adult in this situation, but Nastya just falls into "childhood" at the beginning of the series. I'm not saying that Nastya cannot be understood, but this does not mean that she looks at the situation only from her side/top.
There are things that characterize the rot inside a person and the fact that it is not worth being friends with him. Cheating best friend with her husband is just this beacon. Here the question is even more than solidarity, but self-respect. To communicate with such a person is a rotten business. It's like talking to a person who beats children or an abuser. Well, yes, like he's not abusing you, but others, he didn't do anything wrong to me. For now. Having such a friend next to you is more expensive for yourself. Where is the guarantee that she will not sleep with Inga's husband later? None. She has no moral compass and there is no excuse for her. Like this husband. A man is not a thing to take and share. But there is no excuse for a friend at all. Husbands of girlfriends are an asexual person for girlfriends in normal human communication.
It's easy to say: resentment, it's your fault, why carry it with you. But this is not a grudge, but a betrayal, it's scarier, and sometimes it's impossible and you don't need to forgive. And this is not a question of psychotherapy. This one has a good excuse too: I am Aquarius. I'm sorry, what the hell? Does that justify you doing this to a loved one? It's kind of surreal. God save me from such friends and from those who find at least some excuse for them.
@Mint Marzipan: So the point is not only in forgiveness, the point is that you need to realize that this is an offense and accept it as an adult and only then do something about it. If you don't let go of the offense, it will drag you down - that's the essence of the thought.
@Tonybofthedead: I understood the meaning, and yes, it is undoubtedly true, but in practice, alas, it is not so easy and simple. I know for myself that even when you realize a grudge, letting it go is sooooooo hard. Although, perhaps, others do not have such a clinic with this)
@Minty_marzipan: Of course it's difficult, it's not easy with such things, not only for you) Here, time is already doing its time and working on itself. Well, a good psychologist can help, who will help you look at the situation from a different angle.
It was a shame for Nastya the whole series. I really liked how Nastya said at the end that only she and he were to blame for the destruction of relations with her husband, and she and her friend were to blame for the end of friendship. It's a shame that Nastya is twice as guilty as others and, being, in essence, a victim of events (she did not take active and conscious actions to such an outcome), she lost both her husband and her friend. A double blow of some kind. Stewing in resentment and self-pity is very exhausting and does not lead to anything good. Deciding to forgive is a huge step. And Nastya is a big smart girl. Of course, the pain won't go away so easily after one sincere conversation, but living with it will definitely become easier.
And I watched the whole series and I'm indignant why everything is stuttered on the Kinopoisk...
I'm stupid.... 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲
Adequate people should not stop communicating with someone just because that person hurt someone else (if we are talking about friendship). In any relationship, when a friend or partner asks /demands /sets conditions for the termination of communication with a third person, this is simply suppression and psychological abuse. Vika is an adult in this situation, but Nastya just falls into "childhood" at the beginning of the series.
I'm not saying that Nastya cannot be understood, but this does not mean that she looks at the situation only from her side/top.
This one has a good excuse too: I am Aquarius. I'm sorry, what the hell? Does that justify you doing this to a loved one? It's kind of surreal. God save me from such friends and from those who find at least some excuse for them.
Stewing in resentment and self-pity is very exhausting and does not lead to anything good. Deciding to forgive is a huge step. And Nastya is a big smart girl. Of course, the pain won't go away so easily after one sincere conversation, but living with it will definitely become easier.